Hakomi is a method for inviting unresolved experiences into consciousness and resolving them by offering new experiences of the world. The missing experience, no matter what the belief or situation that evokes it, is always a positive experience. It always provides relief or pleasure and a new, more positive sense of self. And it occurs within a sensitive, highly attuned relationship with the therapist and in some cases, with a group.
As to what kind of experiences are missing, the ones that are important to therapeutic practice are the ones involving the “social emotions”, experiences around relationship. That’s what’s missing. When I think about all the missing experiences I’ve helped evoke in clients, like safety, contact, comfort – all the positive, nourishing experiences – they are all about relationship